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February 3rd, 2010
Even after reading for years and years, I still have cards that I just don’t get, personally. I feel like the reason for this can’t be as simple as having a lousy memory; it runs deeper than that. I think that cards anyone has trouble grasping the meaning of indicate either a phase that they haven’t experienced before or, more likely, something they are in denial about.
So, let’s talk about denial, shall we?
I keep getting the Devil card in my readings right now. I know the meaning of the Devil card and I can easily tell someone else what it means when it comes up in their reading. But, when it comes to me, I am uncertain of the card’s significance. I know what it might be talking about. It might be talking about me putting material concerns over other, more important concerns in my life. It could also be talking about feeling trapped or being in denial.
 1485 Painting by Hans Memling.
What I most fear is that the Devil is talking about a large pattern that I’ve been stuck in for about nine years now; probably more. I fear this because, if that’s the case, I’m about to start another cycle. And this fear, mixed with the Devil card, makes me very nervous. But just because I fear a particular meaning from a tarot card that’s come up, does this make it the meaning du jour?
In this case, I don’t have the answer. I’ve pulled up cards and used my pendulum, looking for clarification. It seems like this pattern stuff is a possibility, but I don’t like that. I don’t feel that I have a choice but make my next move the way that I plan to. Ah, and, that’s another aspect of the Devil card, too, isn’t it? Not feeling like I have a choice?
Truth be told, even if someone else were to read my cards today and tell me that my worst fears are true and I am about to make the wrong move, I wouldn’t listen to them. It would go right over my head. I would still insist that I don’t know what the Devil card is talking about; only what it might be saying.
As a tarot reader, I come in contact with people who’ve reacted that way to my readings all of the time. I tell them something I know might be a bit uncomfortable and they look at me blankly. ”Does that make sense?” I ask.
“I guess so,” they pause, “I don’t know.”
I can feel that it’s true. The cards all confirm it. I’ve picked up the scent and I know I’m on the right track. So, I decide to phrase it a different way and then ask, ”How about now?”
They just scrunch their nose.
Some people will ask direct questions and I’ll give direct answers and they’ll still respond as if they don’t know what I mean. They’ll ask the same questions in different ways. They’ll get frustrated or want me to reshuffle the deck. In return, I would become frustrated, too. I used to become angry that people would ask me for a tarot reading when they didn’t really want to know the truth about their lives and then persist in making me feel like I wasn’t doing a good job. But, as you can see, I am no different from them. I read my cards all of the time, looking for guidance, but when I don’t get what I want to hear, I ignore it or, even worse (and more likely) I shuffle the cards and re-deal, asking the same question. The thing is that ignoring the answers and continuing to search for an answer isn’t even all that conscious! I write about it now, still not believing that the Devil card probably means what I’ve been fearing it does.
I used to look at denial as a choice (in all honesty, I saw it as a failure–what an idealist I was!). They don’t want to know, I’d think. These days, though, I can’t make that same judgment. It would be wrong. The truth is that sometimes we can’t know what the cards are telling us because we just can’t–want has very little to do with it. The meaning doesn’t compute.
Until a person is ready–and this readiness is beyond their choosing–they can’t know some truths about their lives. Right now, I am one of these people and I can fully recognize that; even while being unable to believe I am about to make a mistake.
So, the next time you read for someone else and they get defensive or blank and you know you’re on the right trail, try to understand their perspective. It isn’t personal, it isn’t the cards or you as a reader, it’s where they are in their life. For whatever reason, tackling that love issue or the problem with their career is much too much for them to handle and prying open the truth would be like opening Pandora’s box at the time of that reading. Instead of getting upset or defensive or judgey, like I used to, just shrug your shoulders and say, “Maybe it will make sense if you sleep on it.” Eventually, the truth will be revealed–at a time that is right for the person.
And, if you find yourself getting a card and feeling unsure of what the heck it is saying to you, just keep your eyes and heart open and allow things to unfold. There is probably a lesson somewhere in there that you need to learn. Oh, and don’t try too hard to figure out if your worst fears are going to come true, because then the Moon card starts appearing and things just get kind of messy from there.. trust me!
January 14th, 2010
Here is the latest question from Ask Cathy (I have paraphrased a bit to clarify this question):
How accurate are the cards? Do you associate a spiritual aspect of life with the responses you receive and give? Or do you think of tarot as coincidental responses?
-Wanda
Well, Wanda, I am sure it will come as no surprise that this is a question I’ve been asked before! In fact, the question of coincidence is probably one of the most frequent questions I get as a tarot reader (right after how did I get into reading tarot). I think that most sincere tarot readers will tell you they don’t feel the tarot is a coincidence and, sometimes, it can be startlingly accurate.
Of course, I say this realizing how easy it is to brush off tarot readings as coincidence. Here, I feel I must acknowledge this before getting into my own experience. The fact of the matter is that, as humans, we all tend to struggle with the same things and these items are the bread and butter of a tarot deck. Just look at what the four suits of a tarot deck represent: money (pentacles), relationships (cups), thoughts (swords), and career or drive (wands). When addressing these four things, it is nearly impossible not to hit home with the majority of people with one reading. In fact, many times, when I’ve posted a reading on this blog, I’ve received responses from a variety of people saying they felt the reading was for them. Not only were they struck by the message of the cards, but they were also touched. Again, this makes sense because the tarot not only talks about money, relationships, etc., but also the universal laws that govern them. In that way, the tarot is like Jungian archetypes which we can all associate with in one way or another.
This, alone, brings value to the tarot as a tool for understanding yourself and human nature. But, add to that the accuracy that I, and countless others, have experienced when using the cards and you’ve got something amazing on your hands. There are so many ways I could talk about the accuracy of the cards or the fact that synchronicity (and not coincidence) is at play when using the tarot.
My number one reason for believing the tarot isn’t a coincidence is reading for strangers. When a tarot reader takes the plunge and reads for their first stranger–or even their 15th or 350th, for that matter!–and is able to tell them exactly what is happening with their lives, any idea of the tarot being coincidental goes out the window. In the cards, I’ve seen people who suffered from abuse and are in recovery, I’ve seen someone whose coworker was up to no good and I’ve warned them against future problems, I’ve seen specific details about people I’ve never met who are close to the client, and the list goes on. Each time, I’ve been right and not just to the surprise of the person I’m reading for, but to my own surprise as well! To me, this has been one of the larger signs that the tarot is not a coincidence and can be incredibly accurate. In fact, if the tarot were not so accurate in these things, I would just chalk it up to coincidence–but it’s so specific that it can’t be about just anyone.
There are also other signs, like having the same cards come up again and again in regards to your own life (or others). Lately, the Lovers card has been coming up for me as something to embrace in my life. It’s come up so many times that I know it’s worth paying attention to. A little over a year ago, in regards to work, the Tower card kept coming up and for as long as I ignored the message of this card, it continued to come up until I finally understood what the tarot was telling me and changed my ways–and I actually haven’t gotten the Tower again until recently.
These are just a couple of ways that I’ve learned the tarot is not a coincidence. I invite other readers to share their feelings on this topic in the comments, too.
And, lastly, is the spiritual aspect of the tarot. I don’t know if I fully understand your question, but I’ll answer to the best of my abilities. For me, the tarot is a very spiritual thing. It exists between the realms of the seen and the unseen, letting readers know when something new is manifesting or when it’s time to let go. For me, the tarot is a spiritual guide, and a very gentle one at that. The tarot warns me when I’m becoming off center, it helps me to know when to trust my gut and when to reach for something else. When doing this, it doesn’t speak to any particular aspect of my life every time, instead it speaks to those places where I need help or guidance most.
To be honest, without this spiritual side of the tarot, I wouldn’t be interested in reading at all. The tarot would just be something to impress your friends with, and I’m not really looking to impress anyone, I’d rather lend a helping hand.
Well, Wanda, I hope this answers at least some of your question. Again, I invite other readers to add their own feelings and experiences in regards to your questions in the comments section. Thanks for writing in!
-Cathy
P.S. Having said all of this, however, the tarot as a tool can sometimes be only as good as the person who is using it. Sadly, there are people out there who call themselves tarot readers but are not worthy of that title! I had a friend, who was definitely taken advantage of by someone posing as a tarot reader and just let me say that if a reader tells you, you are cursed or tells you to bury money somewhere to break a spell, this is not the tarot speaking. It is always important not to leave your good judgement at the door when working with a tarot reader. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or like you are being taken advantage of, I recommend taking your business elsewhere.
January 7th, 2010
How to read a tarot card
Recently, a reader wrote in and asked:
What would be the best way to interpret the 6 of Swords as a temporary forecast for the year?
-Patricia
Thanks for your question, Patricia! Sometimes, when people read tarot for themselves, they get a card that they don’t quite understand [...]
December 29th, 2009
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December 23rd, 2009
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The two of wands showed up in my recent past what does it mean in that position?
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October 23rd, 2009
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